Q: plus i'm a girl so not to manly!
A: I'm not exactly sure what a "messenger bag" is, but check luggage stores, sporting goods stores, and outdoor equipment stores in your area. They usually carry all kinds of bags and backpacks. I like the Eddie Bauer backpacks and the L. L. Bean backpacks. They are durable, strong and stylish, but there are many great backpacks available. You can see some of them at these links. http://www.eddiebauer.com/EB/Bags--Gear/Backpacks--Messengers/index.cat?viewAll=y http://www.llbean.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?categoryId=50&storeId=1&catalogId=1&langId=-1&nav=hp-gndp http://www.rockymountaintrail.com/ http://www.jansport.com/ http://www.jansport-backpacks.com/